I know you’ve probably read the title to this post and thought to yourself, “Hmmmm”. Well, this topic has to do with the “idea” of marriage. I know a lot of people (mostly women) that worship the “idea” of marriage. Yes, the idea!
For women, most of us as little girls were raised to idolize growing up one day to get married and have babies. Think about it, all our toys (doll house, Barbie & Ken, baby dolls, etc.) games (play house, pretend family, My Mother Your Mother hand game, etc.) that we played and even cartoons (Kermit & Miss Piggy, Lady & the Tramp, Pepe Le Pure, etc.) that we watched growing up has tailored us into this stupid way of thinking. I believe this is part of the reason that people otherwise known as intelligent are said to loose their intelligent mind when it comes to love.
As though all a woman can be is a wife or mother. Then we grow up and accept the first man the wind blows our way and expect him to fit into the unrealistic mold we already have envisioned in our minds. Wives and mothers are much more within ourselves than who we are connected to in marriage and birth. I am often reminded that the God I serve is a very jealous God and He never wants us to make an idol out of anything or anyone!
Everybody is looking for the perfect guy or the perfect woman, but does this person even exist? I like the way Bishop T.D. Jakes said it, “The best you can hope for is Mr. Almost and Miss Pretty Close”. Some people worship marriage, they worship having someone in their life and they make an idol out of having other people. But remember, people are like houses, the best ones appreciate over time especially if they are looked after, some are strong and withstand the test of time, some collapse under pressure if the foundation ain’t right and with some, the lights on… but you know nobody’s home.
The culture we live in today doesn’t just want Mr. Right or Miss Right but Mr. or Miss Right Now, because we live for the now and hope for the best in the future.